About Me
I wanted to live many lives
inside one reincarnation.
I’m Babs Paz — author, coach, spiritual explorer and serial reinventor.
I’ve changed countries, careers, creative paths, beliefs, dreams and directions more than once.
I’ve been completely certain about what came next. I’ve also been completely lost.
And I’ve experienced that peculiar space in between — when the life you created no longer feels quite right, but the next one hasn’t revealed itself yet. That space interests me enormously. Because sometimes you don’t have a goal. You just know the joy has faded.
Something feels flat. Too small. Too predictable. You look at a life that may appear perfectly fine from the outside and quietly think:
Is this really it?
I don’t believe it has to be.
Whether you’re 32 or 62, you are allowed to change direction.
You are allowed to outgrow an identity.
You are allowed to want something different from what you wanted ten years ago.
You are even allowed to begin again without knowing exactly where the new road leads.
I know something about starting over
I was born in Brazil and later created a new life in the Netherlands.
I moved countries at 49 — an age when we are supposedly becoming more settled, sensible and predictable.
Apparently, I missed the memo.
Throughout my life I have worked in different fields, studied different subjects, written books, created videos, coached people, explored spirituality and consciousness, walked the Camino de Santiago and, more recently, thrown myself into painting with the enthusiasm of someone who has clearly forgotten she is supposed to specialize in one thing.
I once joked that I don’t really have hobbies.
I have annual blocks of obsession.
But beneath all these changes there is a thread.
Curiosity.
The desire to experience.
The willingness to become a beginner again.
And the refusal to believe that at some arbitrary age we should stop becoming new versions of ourselves.
I don’t want one perfectly organized life.
I want to live many lives inside one reincarnation.
And I suspect some of the people who find their way to me feel something similar.
Maybe you’re between chapters
Perhaps your children need you differently now.
Perhaps a career that once suited you has lost its meaning.
Maybe a relationship, dream or identity has reached its natural conclusion.
Maybe you have spent decades being useful, responsible and dependable and suddenly realize you don’t quite know what you want anymore.
Or maybe there is something you have wanted to do for years and somehow you keep postponing it.
Midlife can make these questions louder.
But I don’t see midlife as the beginning of the end.
Far from it.
Menopause is not the end of the book. It’s just the end of a chapter.
There are pages left.
Possibly very interesting ones.
The gap between knowing and doing
Over the years, I became fascinated by something I saw in myself and in other people:
We often already know a surprising amount about what needs to change.
We know we are unhappy. We know the project matters. We know the conversation needs to happen. We know we want to write the book, change careers, start the business, leave something behind or become someone different.
And still... we wait. We research. We prepare. We buy another course. We overthink. We wait to feel more confident. We wait for clarity to arrive fully formed. We wait for the perfect moment. We wait for a sign of the Universe. We wait for the invitation. We wait the opportunity to knock on our door.
That fascination eventually became my book:
Massive Imperfect Action: The Willpower of Starting, Persevering and Getting Things Done.
The central idea is simple: You rarely need to know the entire road nor wait for the right time. You need enough clarity to choose a direction and enough courage to take the next step.
Preferably now, before you feel completely ready. I call that Massive Imperfect Action.
The Babs Paz Get Unstuck Method
My coaching work lives in the space between: “Something needs to change” and “I’m actually changing it.”
Sometimes we begin with clarity because you don’t yet know what you want. Other times you know perfectly well what you want but fear, perfectionism, old habits or somebody else’s expectations are keeping you in place. Often we start beautifully and lose momentum. Sometimes you have so many possibilities that choosing one feels painful, almost impossible. And many times the person you have been simply has a very strong gravitational pull.
Together, we look at what is actually happening. We get clear. We question assumptions. We identify what is keeping you stuck. We make decisions.
And then we turn insight into action. Not a perfect five-year plan. The next honest decision. The next courageous step.
The next massive imperfect action.
Clarity creates direction.
Action creates momentum.
Momentum changes things.
The people I work best with
You do not need to arrive knowing exactly what you want.
Finding that out may be part of our work.
And you don’t need to arrive overflowing with motivation either.
You don’t need to arrive motivated. But you do need to arrive willing.
I work best with people who are curious, open-minded and prepared to participate in their own change.
People willing to look honestly at themselves.
To question an old story.
To experiment.
To make decisions.
To take action between sessions.
To occasionally do something before they feel 100% ready.
And to invest time, energy and attention in the life they say they want.
Coaching is collaborative.
I am not interested in becoming the authority on your life.
You are.
My job is to ask the questions that help you hear yourself more clearly, notice patterns that are difficult to see from inside them and help you create enough momentum to move.
I won’t live your life for you.
But I will walk beside you while you begin changing it.
Yes, I have a spiritual side.
A big one.
Spirituality has been part of my life for as long as I can remember.
I grew up highly intuitive and curious about the invisible dimensions of life. I have had vivid dreams and unusual experiences of consciousness since childhood, and over the years I have studied Spiritism, meditation, energy work, Reiki and different spiritual traditions.
I believe we are more than our physical bodies.
I believe consciousness still holds mysteries we don’t fully understand.
I believe in free will, personal responsibility, growth and a spiritual dimension to human experience.
I am not ashamed of any of that, and I have no intention of pretending to be someone more conventional to make myself easier to market.
But I also don’t need you to believe exactly what I believe.
My spirituality is part of how I see the world.
It is not a belief system you have to adopt.
If you are comfortable exploring subjects like intuition, meaning, synchronicity, consciousness and the deeper questions of life while also keeping your feet firmly enough on the ground to take practical action, we will probably understand one another very well.
And when intuition shows up in my coaching, I treat it as an invitation to explore rather than an unquestionable truth.
I might say:
“Something is coming up for me here. Does that resonate with you?”
You remain the authority on your own experience.
Always.
A little more
about me
I’m Brazilian-born and live in the Netherlands.
I’m a mother of two adult sons, and grandmother too.
I’m a writer and the author of Massive Imperfect Action and previously O Poder Feminino.
I create videos about spirituality, consciousness and personal transformation on my YouTube channel, Quantum Babs.
I have a degree in Literature and training in coaching, including the Next Level Coach methodology and Virtual Coach training.
I am also a Holy Fire Reiki practitioner and have spent years studying Spiritism and other approaches to consciousness and spiritual development.
I’ve walked the Camino de Santiago.
I love learning things I don’t yet know how to do.
At the moment, painting has me completely under its spell.
Ask me again next year. Who knows? 😁